tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-217224552024-03-08T02:26:37.753+08:00SensibilitiesAn attempt to make sense of things in a random universe, one Friday at a time.Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.comBlogger242125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-45245743695407272912016-02-12T15:10:00.000+08:002016-02-22T13:19:03.772+08:00TimingIt didn't matter that he was far away. He still managed to send flowers, from the deserts of Qatar, for Valentine's Day.<br />
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The dozen red roses arrived nestled in green leaves and layers of textured black wrapping. It had no note, but a two-stanza poem that he had written specially for me also arrived in my inbox a few days before.<br />
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For a man who acknowledges that he has very bad timing, he is now seriously working on it. I think he's doing just fine. I am Chief Beneficiary of all his efforts at love and affection, and because he loves me this much, his timing will thus always be perfect for me.<br />
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Happy Valentine's Day, my love.<br />
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[Other previous posts about J: <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/01/wilderness.html">1</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/you-touch-me.html">2</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/for-now.html">3</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/09/walking.html">4</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/sky.html">5</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/waiting.html">6</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/convergence.html">7</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/11/you-fly-out-tomorrow-but-before-you-go.html">8</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/11/one-step-forward.html">9</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/11/i-like-brunches-and-midnight-snacks-and.html">10</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-78188900940315857782015-12-04T00:01:00.000+08:002015-12-22T09:21:45.887+08:00Tomorrow this blog turns ten years oldIt has not been completely smooth sailing since I have started this blog. There were a lot of fits and starts, and life often got in the way, but my blog is still alive. Ever since I started blogging regularly again in August of this year, things have been going like clockwork, so it’s all good.<br />
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I have now amassed over 200 posts to date, covering a wide range of topics from physics to law enforcement to books and reading and driving to love and the men in my life to my son and my family to comparative literature to papers and notebooks, and many more in between. I’ve been through so many things that this blog has been witness to. This blog, I daresay, has earned its heft, just like I have earned mine.<br />
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To commemorate this birthday, let me share with you some of my old blogging-related blog posts.<br />
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1. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2005/12/finally-blog_30.html" target="_blank">This my very first blog post.</a> This is shortly followed by a <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2005/12/over-my-shoulder.html" target="_blank">run-down</a> of the current affairs in my life at the time.<br />
2. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/03/ten-thousandth.html" target="_blank">Here I celebrate my first ten thousandth view.</a> My blog is hardly a high-traffic one, but it's nice to see I have a decent amount of readers.<br />
3. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/04/words-in-my-blog.html" target="_blank">This features a word cloud, which used to be the rage in blogs at the time.</a><br />
4. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/05/books-reading-writing.html" target="_blank">One of my favorite posts.</a> This is about books, reading, writing, and blogging.<br />
5. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/06/shedding-skin.html" target="_blank">Here I talk about giving my blog's template a little change.</a><br />
6. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/06/why-i-blog-or-in-honor-of-quiet.html" target="_blank">In 2007, I once blogged about why I blog.</a><br />
7. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/07/collapsing.html" target="_blank">Sometimes I adjust my blogging schedule after a breakup.</a> I no longer do that, because life should go on.<br />
8. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/08/i-have-been-reviewed-again.html" target="_blank">My blog has been reviewed a few times.</a><br />
9. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2009/08/fridays.html" target="_blank">In 2009 I have decided to blog only on Fridays.</a><br />
10. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2010/05/six-months-and-one-day.html" target="_blank">After six months and one day of not blogging, I blog again here.</a><br />
11. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2010/12/sensibilities-has-turned-five.html" target="_blank">Here is when my blog turned five.</a><br />
12. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2013/02/blogging-changing-and-bearing-witness.html" target="_blank">Here is another blog post about why I blog.</a><br />
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There are several more, but they are scattered all over here. Feel free to come in and look around. Settle in. You are welcome to stay as long as you like.<br />
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<a href="http://www.dailypainters.com/paintings/54514/Christmas-Birthday-Cupcake/Delilah-Smith" target="_blank">[Image credit]</a>Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-57336514159722252242015-11-27T00:01:00.000+08:002016-01-24T08:04:02.951+08:00The State of my Fortysomething-hood Address: The First 100 DaysIt has been mostly quiet, which I believe is because I have just come from <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/09/notes-from-precipice.html">darkness and the brink of destruction</a>. The first hundred days of my being forty has been spent quietly and slowly going through the remains of my old life and putting the most important and most essential things back into perspective. It's a very enlightening endeavor. I now have a slightly different view of the world and how it works, and of how I fit into that world. I'm still working through that, though.<br />
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When I turned thirty, I was excited. I was riding on the wings of a new life in Manila, and I had nothing and was no one but I was working on owning something and being someone. Turning forty, on the other hand, was full of trepidation, largely because I was sick, but also because I never really paid attention to the passing of the years, until I woke up one morning and realized that a decade has passed me by. My contemporaries were having grandchildren. Former classmates were celebrating two decades of married life. Twentysomethings were calling me "Tita." I, however, remained where I was in time, until time kicked me abruptly out of my thirties. I can't say it didn't try to warn me; of course it did, but I wasn't paying attention. I guess I was too busy living my life.<br />
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So here I am now, a hundred days into this fortysomething-hood. I haven't yet figured out how to proceed, but here are some things I have learned recently.<br />
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I don't really need as many material things as I thought I did. I could be totally happy and productive on just a five year-old MacBook Air. <br />
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I am not a shoe person. Neither am I a bag person. I have ended up using the same bag and the same two pairs of shoes for the past six months and I have never noticed until now.<br />
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My father is the most reliable and the most patient man I know, my mother the most caring, but in a slightly nervous fashion.<br />
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It is possible to have housemates and never know their names. It is also possible to have housemates you don't know the names of and still care whether they need pain killers for their menstrual cramps.<br />
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I still detest the idea of dying my naturally salt-and-pepper hair a different color.<br />
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I cannot live without a table and a traditional electric reading lamp.<br />
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My genes have asserted — and I have conceded — that my hips will always, always be at least 40 inches no matter what I do.<br />
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People totally take naps while riding public transportation, and they don't always get robbed.<br />
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It's possible to get to the University of the Philippines, Diliman campus, from where I live in the City of Manila, for less than 50 pesos.<br />
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There are over ten different kinds of folding umbrellas that Fibrella makes.<br />
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Metro Manila has the worst sidewalks. One can actually get injured — and infected — just walking on them.<br />
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It's important to get regular facials. Good lighting is equally important, both when studying and when getting my picture taken.<br />
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I don't need 1,000-count pure cotton bed linens to have a good night's sleep; all I need is peace of mind.<br />
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It takes me one hour to walk leisurely from the office to where I live, 45 minutes if I walk fast, and 30 minutes if I walk really, really fast.<br />
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I can read three Agatha Christie novels in one day if I wake up early, go to sleep late, and do nothing else on that day.<br />
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I will not die if my clothes hangers don't match.<br />
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When it rains in Metro Manila and I'm walking, the rain actually pours up from the pavement as well as down from the sky. Manila is creepy that way.<br />
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I have more than one kind of friend. I have the kind that actively checks on me and always insists on helping me out, everyday, and not without a little drama, and I also have the kind that quietly watches out for me from a distance and protects me in their own aloof way, without my knowing. I love both kinds of friends.<br />
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Writing things down and making lists is a crucial activity for survival.<br />
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Not all automatic transmission cars can be driven the exact same way, but all manual-transmission cars are the same.<br />
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You really, truly don't remember things from a fugue. Hollywood got this right.<br />
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Just as friends and family are important, so are fellow writers. They are the friends-and-family that always assure me I'm still making sense even when the rest of the world thinks I'm batcrap crazy.<br />
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<a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2013/04/oh-cover.html">Writing a book</a> is a wonderful antidote to having accomplished nothing else.<br />
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There is a real and permanent cure for varicose veins.<br />
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Women wear short shorts everywhere now, which makes the aforementioned cure for varicose veins even more welcome. On the other hand, men's shorts these days are no longer shorts. They are vile, hideous half-pants.<br />
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Wide-range multi-coated progressive lenses are very expensive, but they are worth it.<br />
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There are times when a full jeepney becomes like a mini-barangay.<br />
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Three 27-inch LCD monitors placed side to side can really heat up an entire cubicle if the airconditioning is not turned on.<br />
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Not all projects that offer good pay should be taken. Sometimes the most fulfilling projects are the ones done pro bono for clients that actually care about other human beings.<br />
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If a man really loves you, he will come after you even if you <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/11/you-fly-out-tomorrow-but-before-you-go.html">leave him</a>, storming your world with a passion so decisive that it changes him, turns him into the <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/11/i-like-brunches-and-midnight-snacks-and.html">the man you want to be with</a>.<br />
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It is possible for me to forgive the man I love and still keep my standards.<br />
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I am more aware now, not just of the minute, quotidian details of life, but also of the grand, overarching principles that surround living.<br />
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I have an idea of how small a dot I am in the universe, but I am also aware of the ripple that I can cause in this universe.<br />
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I have finally learned how to listen to time. It is telling me stories; it has been telling me stories all along.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="http://www.dailypainters.com/paintings/25335/POCKET-WATCH-ELEVEN-O-CLOCK/JEANNE-ILLENYE">1</a>, <a href="http://www.saatchiart.com/art/Painting-White-Ophelia/300648/2241841/view">2</a>, <a href="http://dominiqueamendola.com/print/nap-time">3</a>, <a href="http://paintingandframe.com/prints/willem_haenraets_two_girl_friends_i-14687.html">4</a>, <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/pin/451697037599715660/">5</a>, <a href="http://www.kurtkeefner.com/tag/caesar/">6</a>,]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-5502792205950325372015-11-20T00:01:00.000+08:002015-12-22T09:30:11.206+08:00For youI like brunches and midnight snacks and peanut butter sandwiches. I like museums and libraries and long walks at sunset. I like hugs and flowers and long talks and music from the seventies. I like sleeping in because I was up late reading. I like writing in longhand, and splurging my savings on really divine writing paper. I like sitting by windows and watching the rest of humanity pass by.<br />
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I like being quiet and still, so that you can have the chance to see me, clearly, de-blurred from motion, and thus figure out how to make me fall in love with you.<br />
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<a href="http://www.edwardhopper.net/" target="_blank">[Image credit]</a>Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-8430015314933370592015-11-13T00:01:00.000+08:002015-11-11T08:14:10.526+08:00One step forward<a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2007/01/defiance.html" target="_blank">I have always loved driving</a>, and thought nothing of driving from Manila to Naga to Baguio during those years when I still <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2006/12/cover-boy.html" target="_blank">worked</a> for the Philippine National Police <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2006/05/boys-i-love.html" target="_blank">Special</a> <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2006/07/this-ones-for-boys.html" target="_blank">Action</a> <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2006/05/at-force-march.html" target="_blank">Force</a>. I haven't driven as much since then, but I still drove a lot within the Greater Manila Area for several years, up until June, when I <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/09/notes-from-precipice.html" target="_blank">suffered from an anxiety disorder</a> which rendered me unable to drive, among other things.<br />
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But since this November, I am driving again. The first two days of it was spent driving with a <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jawaid.banaag?fref=ts" target="_blank">friend</a>. We were both on vacation in Naga at the time; <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/11/you-fly-out-tomorrow-but-before-you-go.html" target="_blank">he came from Qatar</a> and I came from Metro Manila. It was really a glorious day.<br />
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On the first day we went to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/borahut?fref=ts" target="_blank">a bar that belongs to a cousin of mine</a>. On the second day we went around the city, and shared a meal at this really awesome Spanish restaurant.<br />
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Then we took pictures of this gorgeous black church, which used to be unpainted gray cement for the longest time. I think painting a church black is a really awesome idea.<br />
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Then we made a beeline for the the mountains. It was a beautiful day for a drive, and the roads were clear.<br />
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I drove the entire way, from morning to evening, and I felt no fear. I drove just fine. All the old driving instincts and habits have been preserved in me. My driving instructors and my entire driving life has taught me well.<br />
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Driving has never felt so liberating. I have a heightened appreciation for it now. I still will not drive in the legendary traffic of Metro Manila, to where I have already returned, but now I know that it’s because I don’t want to, not because I can’t. I have the power of choice again, and I am grateful.Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-60554534051851494802015-11-06T00:01:00.000+08:002015-11-08T07:47:40.913+08:00You fly out tomorrow but before you goI want you to know that while you were here, the winds have blown wild in my world, bringing with them such colour and sound as I have never seen before. In that brief tempest there formed a capsule that contains time, words, nights, music, sunlight, roads, breath. <br />
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But in time this capsule will shrink, ever so slowly, until it becomes small enough to become the atom that buries itself in the back of my mind. In a while, even that minuscule remainder of who we have been will be subsumed by the years that will come and propel you away from me.<br />
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Go now, my love. Fly out to a me-less sky. May all your dreams come true.<br />
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[Related posts: <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/01/wilderness.html" target="_blank">1</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/you-touch-me.html" target="_blank">2</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/for-now.html" target="_blank">3</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/09/walking.html" target="_blank">4</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/sky.html" target="_blank">5</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/waiting.html" target="_blank">6</a>, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/convergence.html" target="_blank">7</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-18008647640482064822015-10-30T00:01:00.000+08:002015-11-09T07:24:52.211+08:00Into the lightFor a while now I have been reading up on and pondering over the psychology of abuse, and why victims of abuse are so misunderstood. There is the pervasive misconception that we have the choice to simply leave the abuse behind, as if abuse was just a room that we can walk out of any time and close the door behind us as we leave.<br />
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But reality states it's never as simple as that. The abuse from people we trust begins very softly, very subtly, and goes on for a while without us knowing what it is, and then that subtle abuse begins to erode our beings little by little. The destruction lies on the psychological plane, barely detectable yet potent nevertheless. So we hold on, unaware that we are being destroyed.<br />
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Sometimes we call this “gas lighting” or “gaslighting,” a throwback to the 1938 British play <i>Gas Light. </i><br />
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The play is set in the foggy London of the late 1800s, and in it, the evil husband secretly spends time at night in the apartment above theirs, carrying a gaslight, to search for the hidden jewels of a wealthy woman who used to live there but was murdered for them. His wife starts to notice this, and to allay her suspicions, he gradually makes her believe that she is losing her mind. After all, just because you see it happening doesn’t mean that it’s really happening. You must be only imagining things.<br />
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And that’s precisely the end-goal of abusers. They want us to think and believe that the evil they are doing to us is not evil, that we deserve to be treated that way, because we are not worthy of being treated with respect and love. They tell us no one will listen to us if we tell someone else about it. They tell us other people will just laugh at us and think we are stupid for making up things. They gradually erode our self-esteem and self-respect for days, months, years, in the guise of love, until we are left with almost nothing.<br />
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By the time the abuse becomes greater and more obvious and starts to get physical, we have already been rendered weak and unable to fight back. This is why abuse usually goes on for years. This is why abused people can't just walk away: we have already been destroyed even before we had any idea we were being destroyed. We were slowly, gently backed into the shadows and taught that we were still under bright lighting. Some abuse victims never emerge from these shadows into true, real light.<br />
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I have. At first the light was blinding, and I was terrified. I thought my skin would catch fire from the light and my entire body would burn because I was not meant to be there. I closed my eyes and covered my face, afraid and ashamed. I felt unworthy to be in the light. But after a while, when I actually did not burn, I removed my hands from my face and opened my eyes, and I started to see the truth. The terrifying feelings gradually went away. It took a while, but I eventually started loving myself again. I started living again. Here’s what abuse has taught me: truth is always stronger than my frailty.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="http://www.flickriver.com/photos/rick_romer/4099539810/#large" target="_blank">1</a>, <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/stage/2015/oct/22/gaslight-review-tara-fitzgerald-royal-derngate-northampton" target="_blank">2</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-15872658577328086672015-10-23T00:01:00.000+08:002015-10-19T20:50:41.924+08:00The secret door<div>
Any person will always, eventually, in their life, get to a point in which they shall have amassed a particularly checkered past. We all start out new and fresh and sinless, but as we go along, we make mistakes. Sometimes we even consciously and deliberately do wrong things, evil things, for reasons that may or may not be justifiable. We take the wrong jobs. We don't work hard enough in the right jobs. We settle down in the wrong city. We take for granted the right city. We strike up relationships with the wrong people. We mess up our relationships with the right people. We hurt the people we love. We prioritize the people who don't care about us. We generally make a mess of our lives when we should have been taking care of it. We all get there. No one in this day and age can turn forty still pristine. We are bound to get scratched and broken along the way, and many times it will be of our own doing. </div>
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But we seem to have a relatively comfortable acceptance of this fact. Though we might regret many things in our past, we still find the strength to move on, grasping at whatever we can hold so as not to crucify ourselves for the wrong decisions and not drown in the uncertainties of the future. We tell ourselves, "That's okay. I have learned from this experience and I am the better for it." We tell ourselves, "If this is the consequence I have to bear for the wrongs that I have done, I'll deal with it." We tell ourselves, "This will all make sense someday." And we keep all these inside of us, inside hearts that, as we grow older, gradually expand to accommodate these efforts to reason our doubts and fears and guilt away. </div>
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We are afraid that if he finds out about our past, he will think us unworthy of his love. We are afraid that he will be ashamed of us, and deem us unfit to be his partner in life. We are terrified to be seen as less than beautiful. And so we hide our past from him. </div>
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We then reconfigure our hearts to have two doors. The first door is the one we lead him to. This door contains carefully curated things about us, good things and happy things, things that will make us look good in his eyes, our plans for the future, our right decisions, our accomplishments. This door makes us look strong and desirable and worthy of love. The second door, on the other hand, is hidden and always kept locked. Behind this secret door we keep the darkest moments of our past, the evils we have done, the particularly regrettable choices, the bad alliances. We keep this second door always in the shadows, carefully kept behind other things, so that he won't see it. And then we live our days in constant anxiety over that secret door to our past.<br />
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Sometimes I wonder how it would feel to have a man to whom I can open that hidden door, and have him walk in and walk through all the muck and mire that's there, and come out of it still completely in love with me. I wonder how it would feel to have that door wide open, all things that used to be inside it surrendered to the light of day, all walls that surround it taken down by his love and acceptance. I wonder how it would feel to have him tell me, "You are more beautiful in my eyes now after I have seen what you have gone through."</div>
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And inside this ever-widening space that is my heart, after the two doors have opened, I wonder how it would feel to have all partitions inside my heart fall down piece by piece by iron piece. I wonder how it would feel to finally have no more doors, no more walls. I wonder how it would feel to have a heart that is a bright, large, open field that he can run around in, arms wide open.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="http://fineartamerica.com/featured/broken-hearted-chris-bradley.html" target="_blank">1</a>, <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/pin/492649928897343/" target="_blank">2</a>, <a href="https://ufkidlit.wordpress.com/2013/07/19/the-secret-garden-appropriate-for-children-today/" target="_blank">3</a>]</div>
Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-61896376559445288112015-10-16T00:01:00.000+08:002015-10-16T10:28:28.606+08:00ConvergenceYou're here again, after I have <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/waiting.html" target="_blank">waited</a> for you, and a deep stillness hangs over everything, as if we are standing together inside the eye of a storm. Peace and calm are finally granted to us, although it's only going to be in the very brief time that you will be here. Nevertheless, I know how precious this time is for you, because I know how hard your life is <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/for-now.html" target="_blank">elsewhere</a>.<br />
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Thank you for always finding time for me, for holding my hand again, for telling me all the things that's in your heart again, things that you were not comfortable saying on Skype, and for telling me all those now while holding me and looking straight into my eyes. You have always been the most earnest and honest man I know; that is both your strength and your weakness.<br />
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And would you believe it’s our anniversary week? <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/01/wilderness.html" target="_blank">We talked to each other for the very first time</a> on this very same week, 23 years ago.<br />
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I don’t think it’s a coincidence. It’s like an entire constellation of events have come together to culminate in this moment, to bring us together a third time. And three is a charmed number. Thank you for coming home, my love. Enjoy your stay.Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-44810974144557682822015-10-09T15:00:00.000+08:002015-10-16T16:56:34.114+08:00Waiting<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Your <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/10/sky.html" target="_blank">plane</a> will be touching down in a few hours, and I'm really looking forward to the time when you can be here where I am. I don’t know exactly how to handle having you here again. But I have waited as long as I have, and now the moment is almost here.<br />
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I first wrote about you in my diary in October 12, 1992. Your first email to me is dated January 19, 2014. So were your very first SMS and Facebook private message. The first time I saw you again after about two decades was <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/01/wilderness.html" target="_blank">January 24, 2014</a>. You first kissed me on <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/you-touch-me.html" target="_blank">March 29, 2014</a>. The last time I held you was in <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/04/for-now.html" target="_blank">April 8, 2014</a>. The last time I talked with you was today, when you were already on the plane and before you turned off your phone. And in a few hours, you will be here again. I’ll probably cry of relief, but I hope you won’t mind. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/09/walking.html" target="_blank">I have missed you so much</a>. Welcome home, my love.<br />
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Little did I know what magic I would be propelled to live through when we started. I already knew then that you were leaving the country in a few weeks, but by sheer force of our newness, we felt that it would be a piece of cake. It wasn't. It isn't. It's no full feast, either, but it's food to my soul nevertheless. When I was going through some of my darkest personal upheavals, you were the man in my life who took the brunt of it. When it felt like I was my own worst enemy, you were the one who told me I'm an angel. When I was leaning towards destruction, you leaned towards love and understanding. And when I thought it was all over, you were the small but profound and steady content in my social media that provided me with hope. You were not really the strongest of men; you had your own failings. But in the best way that you possibly can, you were my wall, my pillar, the roof over my head when the storm came, and when the water became overwhelming, you were my life raft in the middle of a heaving sea.<br />
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Though I have none of your composure and humor, I'd like to believe that I was able to bring some beauty into your life, that I had a hand in keeping you sane as you tried to adjust to your new life in a desert country. I'd like to believe that every time you called me in your moments of loneliness, I was able to give you some comfort. I'd like to believe that despite the darkness of uncertainty, I was your beacon of constancy, and I was someone who you will always look for, someone who you will always call, talk to, desire to be with.<br />
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You had to leave the country without us ever being able to fully enjoy each other. If I count the number of hours that we have been together, the total will not make even half a week. Yet with only half a week's worth of actual togetherness, we were able to outlast 2014. Now 2015 is coming to a close in three months, and still we remain a constant in each other's lives.<br />
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Last night I took a slow <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/09/walking.html" target="_blank">walk</a> home after dinner, and I thought to pause to look for stars in the sky. It was a cloudy night; it rained very hard just yesterday afternoon as it always does in Manila. There were no stars that I could find. But the sky was there, as it always is. And very soon, in a week's time, you'll be flying through that sky to see me.<br />
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Now I get out of bed every morning at five minutes to seven, get ready for work, and I'm out <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/08/to-streets.html" target="_blank">walking to work</a> by seven-fifteen. After work ends at five, I'm usually home by five-thirty. In my bedroom I don't have a television, which I have given up in 2002 anyway. I also have no computer there, no library, and no wifi. What I do is read on my Kindle, which is now loaded with only ten carefully selected books at a time. If I need to do some studying for a class or have some readings to deal with in preparation for a class paper or a class report, I bring them home with me from the office. When I need to write something I draft it by hand. I take notes by hand as well. I spend almost all of my evenings quietly studying, disconnected from the world except via voice calls and text messaging, on a cellphone that is kept on silent.<br />
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Living this way, I have gotten more studying done than ever. My old life had so many distractions. There was high-speed broadband, my laptop, external hard drives full of movies and TV shows and Kindle books. There was also my entire library with its wall of book spines inviting me to deviate from my study course and read something completely unconnected instead. There was also my notebooks and journals and fountain pens and inks, inviting me to doodle instead of study. And then there was house cleaning and laundry and general tidying up.<br />
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There's none of that now. And as the year — and the semester — comes to a close, I prepare to write two different final papers for two different comparative literature classes. I am approaching of the end of yet another year lived. I am grateful. I am grateful for the quiet and the time I now have full access to, so that I could concentrate on heavy theory. I can hear my own thoughts again. I can think clearly again.<br />
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At least twice a day I am <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/08/to-streets.html" target="_blank">part of this walking mass of people</a>. I slip into the mass adroitly, walk a little ways to my daily commute, and then slip out of the mass at just the right moment so as not to disturb the beat and tempo of the busy and determined congregation. I, too, am busy and determined. At least I try to be, because I do have certain important things to deal with, things that require my presence, my skill, my energy, and my concentration. These are not exactly matters of national importance, but matters that are important to me, so that I can earn my keep, so that I can be useful to the human race, so that everyday I can become better than the person I was the day before.<br />
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Sometimes I wonder about all those people I walk with every day. What goes on in their minds as they walk? Do they count their steps? Do they try to recall a dream they had the night before? Do they ponder over breakfast or dinner possibilities? Do they tick off lists in their head? Do they wonder what kind of emails they will be getting that day? Do they wonder what happened to the email they were expecting to get that day but didn't? Do they wonder what their children are doing? Do they think about their finances, their laundry, their health, the locks on their doors? Do they sing in their heads?<br />
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And do they allow their thoughts to meander toward matters beyond the tedium of the day-to-day? Do they ponder over potentially life-changing decisions? Do they wonder about past choices they did not take? Do they think about the environment, the state of the country, and the human condition? Do they wonder about the future?<br />
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I do. My mind is always a whirlwind of thoughts when I walk to work and back. Ideas, memories, decisions, details, and songs swirl together like a storm inside my head, words colliding with colors colliding with aromas colliding with faces colliding with sounds. But even in the dark, twisting, heaving maelstrom, one very small dot of quiet floats around constantly, carrying its own light, sustaining its own buoyancy. That dot contains my thoughts of you: steady, clear, knowable.<br />
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Though you remain far from me, and stay connected to me only through the benefit of fiber-optic cables that span the entire globe like a spiderweb, everything you have ever given me — information, stories, songs, laughter, tears, hurt, worry, hope, promises, love, memories — get stored inside this dot. This dot is what keeps me in circulation in the land of the living, keeps me in step with the crowd of people that are aiming to get through life in one piece. In that dot, I find a handhold on love.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="http://afremov.com/TODAY-I-FORGOT-MY-UMBRELLA-PALETTE-KNIFE-Oil-Painting-On-Canvas-By-Leonid-Afremov-Size-30-x40.html" target="_blank">1</a>, <a href="https://robmercier00.wordpress.com/tag/photography/page/9/" target="_blank">2</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-55977368941063766182015-09-11T00:01:00.000+08:002015-10-16T10:00:04.904+08:00ThresholdIt's not easy to upload a blog post for September 11 without somehow touching on 9/11, even if the blog post is really about something else entirely. But today being a Friday, I am taking the challenge, and rather than do this in a roundabout way, let me just jump right in and tell you where I was and what I was doing when 9/11 happened.<br />
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I was in my parents' house, where I was living at the time, caring for my newborn son. I just turned 25 years old. I was very unhappy, but I didn't know it yet. Those days were spent mostly living from one day to the next, while making sure that the baby is fed and dry and well-rested. Such were my concerns: breathing and eating and sanitation. I was so preoccupied with surviving the tedium that I had no opportunity to even think about transcendence. Little did I know that my marriage was to come crashing down within that year.<br />
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But that afternoon, while preparing to sterilize my son's bottles, I heard my mother exclaim in the lanai, and then I saw my father walking over to her and turning up the volume of the television. I went over to the TV and saw that now-familiar footage of the twin towers oozing with black smoke. I no longer remember what the reporters were saying.<br />
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That was fifteen years ago. I was a young wife who had no idea that my future would be nothing like I had planned, nothing like I had ever imagined. The world had 9/11 that would bring humanity to the point of no return. I had the day of the 9/11 attack to mark the closing of certain doors to me at a very momentous time in my life.<br />
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I will never be innocent again. I will never go through life without another human being depending on me again. I will never be able to believe again that love would be enough. That was the moment of my fall. That was the very first betrayal that life had subjected me to. But fourteen years hence, I have already risen. I have already crossed the threshold, and have closed the final door behind me. My own Ground Zero is now grown over with a forest.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="http://www.dailypainters.com/paintings/220373/World-Trade-Center-New-York-City-9-11-5x7-Oil-on-canvas-HALL-GROAT-II/Hall-Groat-II" target="_blank">1</a>, <a href="http://tomlevy.isendyouthis.com/index.aspx?sectionid=1204301&productid=1837085" target="_blank">2</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-75757588851228593982015-09-04T00:05:00.000+08:002015-09-14T09:19:31.025+08:00Notes from the precipiceFor about six weeks sometime this year I had to file a sick leave from work and stay with my parents in Naga because of an anxiety disorder that left me, literally, physically, scared stiff. I could not move my neck and upper back. I would shake at random times of the day. I would break out in cold sweat. I was terrified of everything, especially of cars and of riding in cars. Eventually it escalated into a fear not just of vehicles but also of high places, confined spaces, and loud noises. I would panic every time a vehicle would pass by our house. I could not stay in the bathroom for more than a minute, afraid that I would get locked in and the ceiling would cave in and I would suffocate to death. I could not sleep because if I did, I'd get nightmares about falling off high places, crashing into trains, and suffocating.<br />
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I could not eat. I lost 20 lbs. I could not write, literally, because my handwriting would come out as ineligible chicken scrawl. I could not type on my computer because my hands would shake so much that all I’d get would be more typos than I could correct. I could not read or watch movies because any scene with vehicles in them would scare me to pieces. The constant fear gave me palpitations, and I feared that I could develop a heart problem because of it. Prayers were always on my lips because every moment was a portal to death. Thankfully, with the support of my parents and the expertise of my third psychiatrist, we got to the bottom of it. But for a while, it was touch and go for me, and I really felt that I could die any moment.<br />
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Turns out the fearful feelings were side effects of a psychiatric medication I have been put on by my second psychiatrist, and this was discovered by my third psychiatrist. The medication was Aripiprazole. The moment I was off it, the fearful feelings lifted immediately, and it was glorious. Imagine being in a situation in which you are about to fall off a precipice, without a handhold, and then suddenly and without warning, you are pulled back to safety completely. I was on the brink of either death or insanity, and then I was saved. That’s how it felt. After that, everyday has been an exercise in gratitude.<br />
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And as part of my gratitude for this second chance at life, I resolved never to place myself in a situation in which that could happen again. I changed my entire lifestyle. My life and my health are so much more precious to me now and I feel that I am both stronger and more frail at the same time. I am sharper at identifying dangerous things and people, but I am also more sensitive to negativity. I am now more decisive, but I also tend to shy away from situations of uncertainty. I take care of myself better, but the heightened sense of creativity leaves me vulnerable to certain evils. My focus is now much clearer, but I can also see other unrelated things in the periphery of my vision. It’s a balancing act, but so far my instincts and gut-feel have been serving me well, and I am still alive and sane and, I believe, happy.<br />
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My third psychiatrist and I decided to go off all psychiatric medication completely, and that I should observe my moods closely and learn how to master them on my own, without help from medication. (My third psychiatrist is doubtful whether I am truly bipolar, anyway. That diagnosis came in 2007 from my first psychiatrist, who had always placed on some medication or other and whom I fired in April this year because I can no longer trust her. My second psychiatrist is someone I started seeing in April after I had a minor emotional issue at work. The second psychiatrist is a student of the first psychiatrist, so I’m still not very comfortable with her, and I haven’t been to see her since I came back from the precipice.)<br />
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In the effort to take myself out of situations that can stress me out, I have moved out of my old apartment in Makati, so I no longer have to live alone and rely only on security guards for my safety. I no longer have to keep house and deal with housework and the maintenance of a pretty home. I have given up my car and moved to a place much closer to the office so I no longer have to drive and no longer have to pass through traffic. I no longer have to see kilometers of cars with their brake lights on for hours, which used to, and sometimes still, give me panic attacks. I no longer have to take on projects that I’m not completely excited about just to sustain my old lifestyle. Now every single thing I spend time on is something that makes me happy, whether it be designing publications, reading, studying, writing, or taking public transport to go somewhere I am eager to be. I no longer talk to people I don't like. I no longer even dress for other people anymore. I have now reverted to dressing the way I have always been happy dressing for years — in jeans, soft shirts, and light jackets. My nonessential wardrobe is all packed up together with all of my furniture, and I suppose I shall be giving many of them away, in the continuing effort to pare down my stuff and retain only what I absolutely need to survive. Life is more than just owning stuff. Life is more than just doing stuff. <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2015/08/stuff.html" target="_blank">I know that now.</a><br />
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Perhaps this is why it all had to happen. If I hadn’t had that emotional issue at work, I wouldn’t have fired the first psychiatrist, wouldn’t have met the second psychiatrist, wouldn’t have started taking Aripiprazole, wouldn’t have had the anxiety disorder, wouldn’t have met the third psychiatrist, wouldn’t have been off psychiatric medications completely, wouldn’t have had the opportunity to realize what was really important to me. I wouldn’t have had the resolve to write again and write much better. So I’m grateful for everything that happened, now that I know how it all fits into the bigger picture, no matter how awful it was when I was going through them. The bad things were not wasted on me. It turned me into this, and it's beautiful.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="https://christineloughery.wordpress.com/tag/paint/" target="_blank">1</a>, <a href="http://www.artclon.com/oil-paintings-reproductions/369.html" target="_blank">2</a>, <a href="https://teacupsandbuttercups.wordpress.com/category/books/page/2/" target="_blank">3</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-27093081081841029352015-08-28T00:30:00.000+08:002015-09-03T15:01:27.049+08:00An excerptfrom a novel I am working on.<br />
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<i>It is only after the passing of so many years and of so many of her bloodline that Assumpta could begin to understand a little of what had happened. But even then, she could not make sense of much. All that she could experience are random glimmers of sentience, somewhat like memories, somewhat like prophetic visions, somewhat like voices whispering to her from somewhere from the past or the future or an indeterminate time, but always out of reach, like a patch of sky on the pavement on a very bright and hot day, looking like water, inviting and fresh and rippling, but then dissipating into nothing when approached, and the pavement remains flat and parched and gritty as it always has been.</i><br />
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<i>She wishes Guadalupe were still alive to help her figure everything out. But Assumpta no longer hopes to understand it all. At her age, she no longer remembers so many things, even things that had happened the day before. But of a certain part of her life, when she was much younger, she could remember every single detail -- when the very sky broke with ferocious wind and rain as if it were hell itself, when the hills undulated and moaned and changed shape, and the tree branches swayed in terror, and fell, and walked, and wrapped their big, trembling arms around each other, and the stalks of rice trembled on the wet ground from they grew and then fell onto the swampy paddies, defeated by the elements and the fury of the night, and brown, filthy, half-naked, malicious, demented men came up from out of those moaning, groaning hills with weapons of death, and the house of her forefathers burned to the ground.</i><br />
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<i>But there is more that had happened. It wasn’t just the horrifying things. No life can ever be just about monstrosity. There had been beauty, truly, there had been. And there had been order, and good manners, and tradition, friends, the seasons of planting and harvesting, a system of life that had sustained them, and there had been trust and faith, and strong men who kept her safe, and warm beds and beautiful curtains, perfume, flowers, evenings of lights and laughter, food wonderfully concocted, and love, and the land which had been nurtured by her family and which had fed so many generations of Camarines people. Those, Assumpta also remembers. Those, she feels strongly, ferociously, and defiantly, are her birthright. And those are what she holds on to with more vehemence than her memories of the day of annihilation that left her and her youngest brother as the only remaining descendants of the powerful family Arguelles who owned and ruled much of Camarines for over two hundred years.</i><br />
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So far it has been relatively easy, and the ease is of course facilitated by my move to a place that is much closer to the office. Now I carry an umbrella in my bag. Now I wear rubber boots when it's raining. Now I walk to where public transport is, and join the horde that battle the streets to get where they need to go everyday. Now I am one of those who say, "Bayad po," and , "Sa tabi lang." It's not particularly difficult, but it's not easy, either. The Metro Manila commuter is, I daresay, the new salt of the earth.<br />
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There isn't much contact with other people when one drives a private car. Most of the time it's just Daft Punk, America, and me. I can make and take calls. I wear a Bluetooth headset. I use Waze. I talk to myself sometimes. I let my mind wander a bit, especially when stuck in traffic. Though I still traverse the same streets as public transport, it's still an entirely different plane.<br />
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As a commuter I have to be alert always, and I have to keep my phone on silent and out of sight. I dont bring my valuables. I don't need Waze. And I dare not listen to music for fear that it will distract me. I am one of the horde now, walking, taking rides, walking again, and taking another ride, until I get to where I need to be. It's a very earthy kind of existence, one with its own norms and demarcations that I am still in the process of learning. I traverse a different kind of plane this way.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="http://fineartamerica.com/featured/old-montreal-paintings-summer-street-scene-along-the-old-port-carole-spandau.html">1</a>, <a href="http://slis.simmons.edu/blogs/naresh/creativity/painting/acrylic/mabuhay-jeepney/">2</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-59773625160864475242015-08-14T00:01:00.000+08:002015-11-08T11:50:54.251+08:00StuffI have recently moved out of the Makati apartment I have lived in for five and a half years. Before living there, I lived in a small Makati studio for seven years. That's a total of thirteen years spent living alone in Metro Manila.<br />
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When I moved out of my 58 square meter apartment in Makati, my stuff completely filled up the interior of a very large moving van -- a six-wheeler container van, actually -- with the help of four workers. It was a total move out, consisting of just one trip, so we had to find a way for everything to fit. It was a rather stressful exercise, as I was temporarily living in Bicol because of certain illnesses, and had to travel to Manila just to move and start my life over.<br />
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As I watched the van slowly fill up with stuff, I wondered how I had accumulated so much for the past thirteen years. A whole lot of them were books, and then shelves to hold the books. A lot of them were files that I still have to hold on to, so there's that. I do have a lot of bed linens because I love my custom-made bed with the orthopedic mattress topper, and that was the one area in which I tended to splurge. A lot of them were also clothes, which is strange, because I have never really been a consciously sartorial person, always just favoring jeans and round neck shirts if I could get away with it.<br />
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It all got me thinking, if I who don't buy much can end up with so much stuff over the span of thirteen years, what about those who consciously buy a lot of stuff? Why do we buy stuff, anyway? I bought stuff because I thought I needed them. Books were a necessity in my life, and thus so were shelves. Clothes were cycled as my weight roller-coastered. I didn't fancy many shoes. But what of those who bought stuff indiscriminately, such as those who buy stuff every time there is a sale, for instance? What of those who live in bigger homes where there is enough space to house a lot of stuff? What of those who live with other people who need stuff? I dare not think of our house in Naga, all 400-something square meters of it, housing its eight members and four maids, all of whom need stuff. A house in which stuff has accumulated for about forty years of my parents' married life.<br />
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Now I am sharing a house with several girls, and all I brought with me is one suitcase of clothes and my sister's old electric fan. Now I am already allergic to buying stuff. My mother wants new bed linens for me and my dad has suggested a new headboard, but I said no more additional stuff. I have used up my quota for the past thirteen years, and now I will use what we already have.<br />
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And maybe that's what the whole exercise is for -- for me to have had the experience of acquiring stuff, stuff that now have memories attached to them. Perhaps it was also for me to experience life in Manila for thirteen years with the convenience and comfort brought about by stuff. And in all this, it's for me to see that what I have is more than enough. I'm done buying.<br />
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[Image credits: <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/pin/389561436492147121/">1</a>, <a href="http://www.jaimetreadwell.com/Dccc-watercolor-cardboard-box-description.htm">2</a>, <a href="http://www.dailypainters.com/paintings/229299/Port-Gamble-House-1-plein-air-oil-painting-by-Robin-Weiss/Robin-Weiss">3</a>]Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-60744385248135344772015-08-07T00:01:00.000+08:002015-10-16T11:05:53.425+08:00Life beginsat forty, as the saying goes, and as I enter the line of four, I crane my neck to see what's out there. Certainly when life begins there has to be some sort of ceremony, similar to the fuss and bustle that happens when one is pulled from the womb, when life begins for the first time?<br />
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But turning forty is quieter. Perhaps it does seem that way because right before I turned forty, there was so much noise and stress. I had to change psychiatrists. Then I suffered from an anxiety disorder, which turned me into a bag of nerves. Then I had to change psychiatrists again. Then, in an effort to relieve myself of driving-related anxieties I stopped driving and moved out of the apartment I have been living in for five years, moved into a place much closer to the office, a set of exercises that has its own inherent stresses.<br />
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And now, I am past the noise for the most part. The dust has settled after the mayhem has died down. Now I am forty, living simply and sharing house with several girls. I now walk to where public transport is. I now carry an umbrella in my bag, and wear rubber boots when it's raining. Once again, I am elsewhere, and by doing a paradigm shift, also living another life, albeit still mine. Let's see where this takes me. I begin.<br />
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Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-58004395814542760552014-06-13T08:41:00.000+08:002014-06-24T10:57:19.662+08:00Breathing lessons<span style="font-size: x-small;">This is a transcript of my eulogy for my paternal grandmother, Francisca Kare Moll, who passed on June 3 and was laid to rest on June 8.</span><br />
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When I was a teenager, my parents had to go to the United States and stay there for a few years. They had no choice. They simply had to do it. There was no one else available to take care of me and my two siblings, Squiddward and Nachie, but Bita.<br />
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And Oh. My. God. The things I put her through, it’s the stuff of family legend. In fact, because of all the hardships she had suffered because of me, I don’t think she will even have to go through Purgatory. She is going straight to heaven. She is exempted from Purgatory because of me.<br />
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What strikes me most about Bita is her generosity in everything. She was generous with her time, her words of wisdom, her teaching, her prayers. Even in her endearing little subtleties, she was also generous. Maybe no one else notices that but us. Maybe we notice that because we have all come from her. Who could ever forget the meaning of that phenomenal, unforgettable, powerful phrase, “<i>May lapat?</i>” ("<a href="http://mollatmerienda.blogspot.com/">There are cobwebs</a>.")<br />
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She was also generous in her <i>pantatachar</i>, but it was always in good humor, and it was her own subtle way of teaching us what is proper and what is not.<br />
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For instance, she would say, “<i>Jesus, Jesus, Jesus! Itong babaying ito, ang pagkatukaw baya burukaka na. Makakaagi na ang carabao. Jesus, Jesus, Jesus!</i>” (“Oh dear Jesus, look at that woman, sitting there with her legs wide open, enough to let a carabao walk through!”)<br />
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Translation: Always sit with your knees together.<br />
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Another example: “<i>Hilinga na baya iyan babaying iyan. Ang kiray puwede nang sukrayon.</i>” (Look at that woman. Her eyebrows are fit to be groomed with a hairbrush.)<br />
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Translation: Always maintain your eyebrows, and be consistent with its proper density and arc.<br />
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And another example: “<i>Habo ko na daw makasabay mag-cena si kunyan. Kawasa man kaya kun magsapa, nahihiling mo na an kakanon sa laog kan nguso. Ay, kaati!</i>” (I no longer want to have supper with such-and-such, because when he eats, I can see the food that’s right inside his mouth. How disgusting!)<br />
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Translation: Chew your food with your mouth closed.<br />
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And yet another example: "<i>Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, iyan babayi kun makangirit ning makusog, kulang na sanang entirong nguso magkabaraliktad.</i>" ("Oh, dear Jesus. That woman, when she laughs, it's enough to turn her entire mouth inside out.")<br />
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Translation: When you smile or laugh, always keep your gums out of sight.<br />
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That was Bita. Restrained, discreet, elegant, proper, and full of simple yet stylish generosity. In all of the aspects of her life, she has given more than she has received. She was generous even with her body, the very same body that lies here in the room with us now. That body has given birth to, raised, and has given us ten God-fearing, law-abiding, respectable, reasonable, and decent children, whom we, <i>primas y primos</i>, would eventually have the privilege of being our parents.<br />
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Bita has brought so many good things into our lives that I cannot even begin to name them now, tonight. But the most important thing she has taught us, I believe, aside from all those lessons, is the most subtle: the proper way to breathe.<br />
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She died because of complications that began with her difficulty in breathing. At that very moment, when we knew that her body, which was once healthy enough to carry and deliver ten children, was full of various tubes, incoming, outgoing, connected to very sophisticated machines that we never even knew existed, I’m sure we all hoped we could all breathe for her. But of course it simply is not possible. Only she could breathe for herself, which she did, she tried, and she prayed for. Until the very end, when God told her that she can rest.<br />
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Prior to her passing, we thought we could only breathe for ourselves. But after Bita has come and gone, this breathing has now gained more meaning. It’s no longer just a biological function that we instinctively and unthinkingly perform in order to survive.<br />
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Breathing, for us, has now become a channel for gratitude, remembrance, and love. With every breath we take in, we also take in a hundred years of wonderful family history, a history that deserves acceptance, understanding, and faith, because it is a history that made us. With every breath, we also acknowledge our ancestors, who breathed in their time, so we can in ours.<br />
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We may not always breathe the same air, but we always breathe the same sensibilities. We may not always love the same way, but we always love as best as we can. And Bita, true to her reticence and her subtle style, has taught us that<i> that</i> is the proper way to breathe.<br />
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These are the tenets of Bita’s breathing lessons: That we become grateful for every breath, that with each breath we take we should love more deeply, live more profoundly, give more generously, forgive more sincerely, treat family more lovingly, live life more faithfully.<br />
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And most importantly, we should all breathe for each other, breathe for the people we love, breathe for those who cannot, breathe for the future that we will face. Bita, we will continue to breathe for you. We shall expand the breathing you have given to us so it will encompass the generations to come. So let’s breathe in and breathe out. Bita, <i>te amamos, te echamos de menos, pero nunca te olvidaremos. Usted está siempre con nosotros.</i><br />
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<a href="https://www.facebook.com/iggy.g?fref=ts">[Image Credit: Iggy Belleza-Gonzales]</a>Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-55147604807395482022014-04-11T00:01:00.000+08:002015-10-16T12:21:28.227+08:00For nowYou have already left the country, to take your chances in the desert in an entirely different continent. While that sounds like a romantic adventure, you made me understand that it isn’t. Life has not been kind to you, and you have not been kind to yourself. Thus, in the spaces between then and now, you have managed to weave a long, narrow, and very thorny path towards your own redemption.<br />
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The night before you left, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXXvZ-k270c" target="_blank">we went to the store to test and pick up your brother's electric guitar</a>. We didn't think of taking any photos, busy as we were making our last hours together count, so my last photo of you is only this, you standing on the curb, carrying that same electric guitar, taken while I was speeding away in a taxi to go where I needed to be.<br />
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Go, too, where you need to be, my love. I’ll see you on Skype everyday for the next two years or so. May all your dreams come true.Maryanne Mollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13822362981983884999noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21722455.post-66147527355729772892014-04-04T00:01:00.000+08:002015-10-16T09:59:22.396+08:00You touch meand I radiate with music. The universe of words that have always been a big part of my life melt into a swirling vortex of melodies that envelope me with wind and time. When I am with you it is always both night and day, darkness and light crashing towards each other with enough force to create endlessness.<br />
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Why do you <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2014/01/wilderness.html" target="_blank">come to me</a> when I thought I had already lost you to a long-departed youth? I don’t know; I don’t need to know. But you are here now, and in your hands I am a guitar. With your strums I disappear into something that only you can hear.<br />
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That night, I wrote a fevered entry in my diary.<br />
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Now, 22 years later, you walk up to me again, motorcycle helmet in hand. Your smile is still the same. We are no longer young, and what was once a garden has already grown into a wilderness, but I’d gladly walk through the wilderness with you. Thank you for finding me again. <br />
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Three days ago I left behind a previous life, and begin a new one. I was on the edge of the precipice then. Now the winds of love have propelled me to take flight.<br />
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However, this year I will not do the requisite New Year's resolution, which always drove me crazy towards the end of January -- because apparently, having OCD is <i>not</i> an assurance that one will actually get things done as scheduled, and at the same time having OCD <i>is </i>an assurance that one will have frazzled nerves over things committed to and not done. Instead, I have decided just to close one door and open a new one.<br />
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Here are few things I have closed the door to as I leave 2013 behind: Overeating, overspending, psychiatric medication, negative thoughts, psychic vampires, high-maintenance relationships, direction-less relationships, direction-less people, hustlers and liars, credit cards, succumbing to depression, interest rates, painful shoes, cellulite, superficial gatherings, lousy music, bad lighting, bad lipstick, bad typography, bad adaptations, derivative art, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2013/12/superstition.html">senseless superstitions</a>, too many bags, too much drama.<br />
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I have opened my door to: Regular exercise, drinking more water, travel, sincere and chivalrous suitors, elegant date nights, strong and honest men, sleeping alone, sleeping enough, zero debt, taking a leisurely walk at sunset, more time reading the classics, more time writing, proper skin care, laughter, fluffy bedroom slippers, Stevie Nicks, star gazing, ghosts, gardens, eating fruits, windy days, rainy days, patience, freedom.<br />
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What shall remain constant: family, true friends, <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2011/02/where-days-are-longest.html" target="_blank">America the band</a>, solitude, literature, shiraz, and <a href="http://maryannemoll.blogspot.com/2011/12/great-expectations.html" target="_blank">love</a>.<br />
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